I have had several friends that have changed their whole personality when they are around their African-American boyfriends and change back to theirselves as soon as they leave or are around their family. This is just ridiculous.
My husband is Black-American as were many of my boyfriends in my dating years, and NOT once did I change my personality.
I have witnessed these “women” go from, “Hey how are you?” to “Waz up foo?” and back again. They must sit at home watching gangster movies and practicing Ebonics [Ebonics, another insult I will post about later].
Men should find this behavior as a huge insult. They should be asking themselves, “Why does this woman feel she has to act like she speaks sub-standard English just to be around me? Does she feel I am less intelligent than her?”
The other observation I have made is this is usually only with White-American women. For some reason they feel the need to fake it where women of other races do not.
I mean, do these women feel the men they are seeing are less than them in some way and can only relate to them if they pretend to speak Ebonics? Is it low self-esteem or a superiority complex?
Come on women, just be yourself and you may find the Mr Right you have been looking for instead of Mr. Wrong. How do you expect for the men you are seeing to respect or really know who you are if you are only showing the fake you?
I would really love to know the psychology behind this. Does anyone out there have any thoughts?